Okay, very first things first my appearance on Will Sean Podcast? is up!The two vanilla hosts talk about their first visit to the dungeon and first meeting with me and I talk about the inner workings of the pro-domme world. Plus, a story I haven't written about here!
It's episode 8: Tie Us Up, Tie Us Down.
Check them out on itunes to download the interview (and be sure to rate them well!)
If you're like me and you don't have itunes then you can listen on the blog.
And lastly, be sure to "like" them on facebook! There are even a couple pictures on there of me dominating the hosts! ;)
Now, the Featured Fetish! Erotic Asphyxiation.
I portrayed a couple partaking of this fetish because someone doing this by themselves (a more common occurrence) is called auto-erotic asphyxiation. Auto-erotic asphyxiation is PARTICULARLY dangerous as you render yourself helpless and nobody is nearby to assist. It is thought to be a leading cause of deaths often mistaken as suicide by hanging...
It's hard for me to talk about this fetish because it is SO dangerous. I have participated in this fetish with a client before but I can NOT recommend it to anyone. It is ALWAYS dangerous play. "Breath play", as we call it in the scene, is considered "edge play" which is the term for very dangerous forms of BDSM activities (such as knife/blood play etc.)
People enjoy this kind of play because depriving blood and oxygen to the brain gives one a loopy, dizzying sort of ecstasy. Many people who have issues with dopamine levels in the brain (often ex-drug users) will need more extreme sensations such as this one to achieve orgasm. This is, of course, not to say that everyone who partakes of this is involved with drugs or has a chemical deficiency. There's absolutely not only a physical high but a thrill from participating in such risky behavior.
A big mistake people make with erotic asphyxiation is thinking that you need to press firmly against the front of the throat. This is dangerous and unpleasant as it depresses the windpipe (and CAN crush it if one applies too much force.) When I engage in erotic asphyxiation I actually press very little against the windpipe, I use my fingers to press against the veins on either side of the neck, just under the jaw. This allows my submissive to continue to breathe with comfort but cuts down the bloodflow to the brain and therefore achieves the dizzy, head-rush type of feeling that people are after with this play.
When I do this (rarely) I keep VERY close watch on my bottom. Always do it with them laying down so they will not fall and hit their heads if they become faint. Since they usually can't speak well I ask them to tap on my thigh when they want me to stop. If their eyes begin to flutter, I stop. If the breathing appears labored, I stop. And I almost always stop before they signal me because I do NOT want them to pass out. Some partners play to the point of unconsciousness, I do not think that's safe or ethical or even necessary to achieve the desired high.
I apologize if this was a stern write-up but it makes me nervous that any of you may jump into this because I'd really you rather not...
But if you must, stick with hands. There's more control. Using ropes and such can damage the windpipe like I mentioned but they're also harder to loosen at a moments notice, they can often stick and catch in a noose-like fashion and are more likely to leave marks.
Play safe, sane and consensual, people!!!
